Procrastination 101: How NOT to be the 'pro' in procrastination.

I...have the shortest attention span ever. Okay, maybe not the shortest. But yes, I have a really short attention span. And I get super, duper, easily distracted by everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything. But! Fret not, for I have come up with ways that have helped me focus on what I'm doing and be more efficient in producing work.

1) Don't do your work in a place where you know you'll be easily distracted (i.e at home).

2) If you're like me and can't do 5 minutes of work without being distracted when you're not in the presence of others, then girl (or boy, if you're a boy lol), you need to go to the library or something right now! That really, really helps me concentrate a lot more when I'm doing work.

3) You could put your cellphone 1 mile away from you if you want, cause like they all say, out of sight, out of mind. But yeah, that just doesn't really do it for me as I'd get anxious and all without my phone LOL. But, what I'd do is put my phone either on airplane or do not disturb mode so that I don't get notified when I receive a text etc.

4) Put on some music! Use earphones. I don't know about you, but this kind of helps me block out the world. And I'd feel ONE with my academic essays, you know? In perfect harmony. Or something.

5) But obviously, if you can't do work while listening to music, then don't do it. Lol...

6) Set targets as to when you think you want to finish each section of the assignment by. However, if your assignment is due the following day, I suggest you don't even waste time setting targets and just dive right in. (Personally, I don't do this even though I know I should. But I just don't.)

7) Have some snacks ready to munch on while doing work! Unless you're fasting or are on a diet. But again, you could opt to consume foods that won't lead you to gain much weight or clog up your arteries and ultimately lead to an infarction or in other words, a heart attack.

8) Like Nike says, JUST DO IT.

Now, all that is left for me to do is follow my own advice and get right on with my marketing campaign analysis assignment now...

FITTING IN: Transitioning to a new environment

I was reading through my recent posts, and realised that I haven't talked much about my life at all (For the love of carbs, I haven't blogged in forever...haha! But I really do miss blogging.) and sooo, I decided to write this blog post for those who are finding it hard to fit in, whether you're new at school, university or just anywhere in general, really.

Firstly, let me just start off by saying that, I was never really an outspoken person to begin with, and I hardly took the initiative to strike up a conversation with a random person...until I went to Thailand. I don't often tell you life stories, but I shall attempt to type my life out, right here right now lulz.

So at the end of 2010, I moved to Bangkok and attended ISB. It was a completely new environment for me, in terms of the country itself, the language, the culture, the people, the school, the american syllabus, just basically, everything was different. And the school was so massive that it was actually pretty difficult to make friends at first, considering how much of an 'introvert' I was at that point in time. I hardly talked or even laughed when I was at school. The first 3 months was tough, but I obviously made it through my sophomore year! And mind you, I need end up making good friends. :)

After grade 10, I moved to another school to do A levels. SHB. It was definitely a smaller community in SHB, so I think that was a big factor as to why it was easier for me to make friends. And I really did make some really good friends then.

After 2 years, I moved back to Malaysia where I enrolled for Monash's October Intake which was...a pretty small intake, actually. So, this was where my journey really started.

October 2013, I went for orientation--alone--not knowing who I'd be meeting there. I was already a pretty different person by then, I told myself that I was going to talk to people and make new friends, and that was just what I did. Whenever there was a chance to talk someone, I'd just grab that opportunity to have small talk and who knows, they might just end up being my BFF lol (or not). I bumped into many old friends whom I've not met for years, and it was great, but I didn't hang around them forever lol. On Day 3 of orientation, I already found myself hanging out with a group of girls who I hardly knew, but they were so fun to be with and I felt like I'd known them for weeks already. But the funniest thing I remember was, one of them, K, said that her first impression of me was that i was "damn scary and intimidating", because I spoke with an 'accent' and she also told me that she thought I was the "I'm so pretty I'm so smart ha ha ha *flips hair*" type of girl. That totally cracked me up HAHAHA I died. To cut the long story short, I'm super glad that I took the initiative to talk to so many people, or I would never have met such an amazing bunch of people. Really. I met the greatest of friends back in Monash.

And thennn, after about 9 months...I left for Melbourne in July 2014. I was really sad to leave this amazing bunch of people that I've grown love, but oh well, LIFE GOES ON ya feel me? Transitioning to Melbourne wasn't hard to be honest, I was already used to moving schools/countries etc., and I knew quite a number of people here already. However, I still found it difficult to find close friends that I could hang out with and stuff. There were times where I felt pretty lonely, but I think it's really important that you don't let the loneliness get to you, if you know what I mean. I love making new friends, so even though I didn't have a close group of friends that I could talk to whenever I wanted to, I still took the initiative to get to know people. I won't lie, there's bound to be times where I just don't feel like doing anything, but I think I'm doing myself a huge favour by taking the initiative to talk to people, even if you're "the new kid on the block" and you think they should be the one to come up and talk to you first. Just because I'm the new one, it doesn't mean that I have to wait for people to come and talk to me, because sometimes, things just don't go our way and we end up getting disappointed. So if you can help yourself, why not?

I have to be honest though. There are times where no matter how hard you try to get to know some people, you guys are just never gonna get along well or be able to click. But it doesn't matter, if you think you've tried, then so be it. Maybe you'll be better off with a different group of friends!

Right now, I'm still hoping and praying that God will send me good friends--friends that I can hang out with, talk to about anything, build me up as a person and just..I don't know, be a good friend. :) But I believe that I'm going to have an even greater semester next year, and that I'll make those friends. On a side note, I've met sooo many people here that have been such a blessing to me, and have made an impact on my life here; whether big or small, whether they know it or not. Especially those from OCF. I'm really thankful that I went for the OCF orientation alone before classes even started. Haha, these are the people that build me up spiritually while I'm here in Melbourne, and I'm grateful for them.

So to you guys out there who are finding it hard to fit in....don't give up! Gather up the courage to talk to people, and you might soon grow to love people! I assure you, you'll never regret it, and you'll meet sooo many great people. :)

10 common cliches that speak truth

1. Actions speak louder than words.
I can't agree more with this statement. And I can't emphasize more on how disappointing it is when people don't keep to their word. If you say something and don't do it, fine, that's forgivable, but when you promise to do something and don't do it, you're just a (wo)man of empty words.

And don't you dare tell him/her that you love him/her and are willing to do anything for that person when you don't even show it. Because it is by doing those little things that ultimately show him/her that you do love her and appreciate him/her as a person.

2. Love is blind.
...figuratively. Think about it, why do people even break up in the first place?

Mhmmm, uh-huh.

3. You never know what you have till it's gone.
This is probably the truest of all cliches. I think a person wouldn't know how to truly appreciate something or someone until they've really lost it/that person--sometimes, forever.

4. Don't judge a book by its cover.
I've been there. Everyone has. Judging someone based on their outward appearances. But throughout the years, I've learnt to get to know the person first, rather than judging that person based on first impressions because I'm often wrong in a sense that, I later come to realise that there is so much more to that person than I'd imagined.

Of course, it works both ways. You may think someone is 'good' when you first get to know them, but...don't be surprised if (s)he doesn't meet your expectations and turns out to be different than the person you thought (s)he was.

5. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
What may seem ugly to you may be beautiful in someone else's eyes. For example, Justin Bieber JUST KIDDING JUST KIDDING he's not ugly at all in fact he's far from ugly but yeah he's just not my type. At all.

6. Time will tell.
Need I say more?

7. Laughter is the best medicine.
This is sooooo true omgosh haha. Even if laughing may be the cause of your death, at least you die happy, you know? Hahaha okay choi choi touch wood. But still.

8. Old habits die hard.
Indeed. Killing old habits take more than just doing it you know? It takes determination, patience, perseverance, self control, discipline--well basically, just a really positive mindset.

9. A picture is worth a thousand words.

Don't you think? :) Bahahahaha. Jealousy iz in the airzzz, gurl.

10. Last but not least, everything happens for a reason.
I really do believe that everything does happen for a reason, whether we realise it or not. Sometimes we make mistakes so we can learn from them. Sometimes we succeed so we know that there is hope. Sometimes we fall so we can learn how to get back up again. And sometimes we lose people so we know how to appreciate those around us even more.

How to lose friends and make enemies (Not a social experiment.)

Inspired by "Dustyhawk". (Disclaimer: This post has nothing to do with him, nor does it relate to any of his 'doings'. I just thought I might write another 'How-To' post :D)


First of all, remember that you made friends with those people at one point in time. I mean, one can't really lose friends when in the first place he or she never had any friends to begin with, right? Losing friends and eventually, making enemies, is a gradual process. It takes time, but not too long; that you can bet on. :p

STEP 1
'Accidentally' call them by someone else's name

STEP 2
Stop replying their messages. If you feel bad for a start, take it slow. Just keep replying with one of these:
k
haha
lol
cool
really
oh i see
gtg, bye

STEP 3
Make them pay for your meals and don't pay them back later on

STEP 4
Tell on them whenever they miss classes or lectures

STEP 5
Gossip about them right in front of them

STEP 6
Don't give them a chance to speak. Or in other words, just keep interrupting their every sentence

STEP 7
Insult their partners

STEP 8
But hang out with them (their partners)

STEP 9
Make promises, and break them

STEP 10
Just pretend they don't exist

And that's how you "Lose Friends and Make Enemies"! ^__^ Simple, right?

By the way, there is a reason why I wrote this post. I just wanted to remind people (including myself) that, these things do hurt your 'friends', and if you continue doing any of these things, you might just lose a friend.

Also, check out my post on 'How to procrastinate like a boss' if you haven't already! Here's the link: http://kimbleeboey.blogspot.com/search/label/how-to%27s

Have a great month ahead! And Merry Christmas in advance! :)

Expectations in a relationship.

Oh, how I love my friday nights! :3 I get to meet up with my cell group, haha. It's pretty much the only thing I look forward to all week (other than Saturday!) which I guess is good, in some ways. Gives me something to look forward to, at least. Ohoho, my friday nights would be even more precious once uni starts next week. T_T

Anyway. It was bowling + McD night last Friday night and we ended up talking about lotsa stuff, including interracial relationships and expectations in a relationship. My friend went about telling the rest of us how after being in a relationship for 5 years, she doesn't expect much from her guy anymore because marriage is going to be like that anyway. Hmm, that kinda got me thinking a little bit!

I started questioning myself; whether I expected too much from the other person or not. I think it's only normal that most people place a certain level of expectation on their partners (or what not) but sometimes, expecting too much would eventually just leave us disappointed. I know I have been disappointed countless times before, lol (I'm not talking just in terms of romantic relationships *hahaha* but relationships in general--with your best friend, a close family member, etc). But then again, what am I expecting from the other person, exactly? I think we shouldn't expect too much from the other party, especially if in the first place, he/she is not even your partner (know what I mean bruh?). That way, we won't eventually find ourselves feeling bitter about the other person just because he/she didn't treat you like how you'd expected them to.

If you can't help but feel disappointed...well just tell yourself that it ain't your loss!  :)

Day 30: React to this term: Letting Go

Letting go.

To me, letting go means to put the past behind us. Letting go is never easy; this is because in most cases, letting go involves us putting something or someone important to us, behind. However, to let go doesn't necessarily mean to forget. It just means that we've decided to face the truth; face reality..and move on. Afterall, every cloud has its silver lining. J

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think each and every one of us has struggled  to let go of  something at some point in our lives; be it a person, a certain position you hold in your workplace or school, resentment, pride, etc. There have been times where I have gotten hurt but yet, I found it hard to let go nevertheless. Why hold on to something that isn't going to benefit you, right?

Easier said than done.

However, letting go is usually the best solution to many problems. Let go of the past and I'm sure something more positive would come your way. :) It's part and parcel of life. Of course, bear in mind that it wouldn't just happen overnight. Letting go requires initial mental preparation. If you're telling yourself that you've already let go but you still grieve over it, then you really haven't let go at all. Letting go isn't supposed to leave you with feelings of anger, remorse or regret.

I don't really know how to end this post, so I shall just end it with a quote and a picture.

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong; 

but sometimes it is letting go." 

Day 23: Things you've learned that school won't teach you

Our GPA doesn't determine our future.

Our academic performance does not measure our intelligence and self worth.

Once we're out of school, we're on our own. Noone's gonna spoon feed us any longer and we've gotta make decisions on our own.

Love is about giving; not receiving. 

We need to learn how to love ourselves before we can love others; then only will we be able to love Him. 

Teachers aren't always right. (Can I have an AMEN? Amen.)

Life is unfair. Sadly. But oh well,

Day 8: A piece of advice you have for others. Anything at all.

Frankly speaking, this topic is blimey tough to write on, because it's so easy to give any piece of advice to anyone at all, at anytime of the day. I can say all the right things at the right time, but..do I even follow my own advice? Well I suppose I do, most of the time. Haha. Most of us know the right thing to do, but we just subconsciously wish that other people would advise us to do otherwise. Am I right or am I right? I am right.

BUT OH WELL since I already got myself into this mess...

I'd say always be yourself, but that just sounds...gay. VERY VALUABLE ADVICE INDEED, but way too corny. ^^,

I guess the one piece of advice I have for everyone (including myself) out there is-NEVER DO SOMETHING YOU THINK YOU'D REGRET DOING LATER ON IN LIFE.

Yeah, easy for you to say Kimmeh, but you'll never know if you never try...right?

Meh. Haha.

I know most of you probably think I'm talking about "losing your V card" and all...well, that too, but really, it applies to everything; whether in terms of relationships, your work, your studies..just life in general. I guess all I'm trying to say is, think about the consequences of your actions before doing anything.

Oh, and another piece of advice...follow your own advice-the very same advice you'd give to help another person in need. Afterall, you know yourself best!

Day 7: The thing(s) you're most afraid of

Change. Change is inevitable, I know that. Everyone does. However, the mere thought of it still scares me. I admit, I am quite resistant to change, but I'm willing to get out of my comfort zone and take a risk. With time, everything changes; things change, situations change, feelings change, first impressions change..people change. The same goes with our vision, our dreams, our likes and dislikes, our partners--although I hope that doesn't happen often! Hahahaha. Well the thing is, we, humans do not possess that power to change certain things, and that's just life. Change is part and parcel of life (as how my mother would put it). But I always keep in mind that whatever change that is/has been brought upon my life may just be part of God's perfect plan to mold me into a better person-the person He has intended me to be.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord  "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future". -Jeremiah 29:11

Hurting others in any way.

Small wriggly stuff. (specifically maggots eww even typing that word gives me the jitters.)

Day 2: Educate us on something you know alot about or are good at

Okay, let's be honest here. We all have been guilty of procrastinating at some point in our lives. I really don't mean to brag here (I am very humble as you can probably tell.), but I'm excellent at procrastinating. Top class procrastinator. Not only do I know a lot about it; I am also very good at it. Therefore, I'm going to educate you guys on..

First and foremost, the definition of 'procrastination'...hmm actually, I'll just do that later as well. Haha.

Procrastination kills. The act of procrastinating does not only kill time, but it can also potentially kill your eyesight, brain cells, motivation to work and it may eventually kill your soul. Lol. Surround yourselves with friends who delay their assignments all the time and it is highly probable that you would become a pro; just like them. ^^ Since I specialize in this particular area, I will educate you on HOW TO PROCRASTINATE LIKE A BOSS :D

PROCRASTINATION 101: How To Procrastinate Like A Boss

STEP 1

Firstly, you need to realise that YOU'RE YOUR OWN BOSS and be aware of the fact that procrastinating itself; isn't as hard as you think it is. In fact, it is awfully simple!-especially once you get the hang of it. (Warning: It may be awfully simple but if you overdo it, the consequences are simply awful.) You know what they say, it all starts with the right mind set ;)

STEP 2

Got an assignment due in 24 hours? Don't worry! Find the most comfortable spot to do your assignment; preferably a place with super strong wifi. Oh, don't forget cushions. IMPORTANT REMINDER: MAKE SURE YOUR CELLPHOHE IS NEVER OUT OF SIGHT.

STEP 3

Socialize, for goodness sake. Log onto facebook and start chatting with all your friends! You'd need them to help keep you alive and motivated to finish start your assignment.

STEP 4

Listen to some music (preferably on YouTube) while attempting to do your assignment. Perhaps you should just watch a video or two (or twenty) and you'll never know, an idea might just spark.

STEP 5: The Final & Most Important Step

So you're a pro at procrastinating now, right? Now you have 8 hours till the deadline for your assignment. NOW....you start to panic. :D Now would be a very good time to test your abilities to see how well you work and perform under pressure. Just do whatever you need to do in order to get your assignment done and over with. When presenting your final assignment to your teacher, make sure you do it with full of confidence. You can get detained and deal with the plagiarism issues and all later, 'cause chances are, all your classmates are probably going to be facing the same issues as well.


And that's how you procrastinate like a BOSS! I hope these tips were helpful. Please let me know if you guys want any more tips, I'd be more than happy to help, since I love helping others. :)


On a serious note...guys, please don't follow my footsteps, lol. Procrastinating doesn't do you any good (most of the time). So, STOP PROCRASTINATING..

..starting tomorrow :)