10 common cliches that speak truth

1. Actions speak louder than words.
I can't agree more with this statement. And I can't emphasize more on how disappointing it is when people don't keep to their word. If you say something and don't do it, fine, that's forgivable, but when you promise to do something and don't do it, you're just a (wo)man of empty words.

And don't you dare tell him/her that you love him/her and are willing to do anything for that person when you don't even show it. Because it is by doing those little things that ultimately show him/her that you do love her and appreciate him/her as a person.

2. Love is blind.
...figuratively. Think about it, why do people even break up in the first place?

Mhmmm, uh-huh.

3. You never know what you have till it's gone.
This is probably the truest of all cliches. I think a person wouldn't know how to truly appreciate something or someone until they've really lost it/that person--sometimes, forever.

4. Don't judge a book by its cover.
I've been there. Everyone has. Judging someone based on their outward appearances. But throughout the years, I've learnt to get to know the person first, rather than judging that person based on first impressions because I'm often wrong in a sense that, I later come to realise that there is so much more to that person than I'd imagined.

Of course, it works both ways. You may think someone is 'good' when you first get to know them, but...don't be surprised if (s)he doesn't meet your expectations and turns out to be different than the person you thought (s)he was.

5. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
What may seem ugly to you may be beautiful in someone else's eyes. For example, Justin Bieber JUST KIDDING JUST KIDDING he's not ugly at all in fact he's far from ugly but yeah he's just not my type. At all.

6. Time will tell.
Need I say more?

7. Laughter is the best medicine.
This is sooooo true omgosh haha. Even if laughing may be the cause of your death, at least you die happy, you know? Hahaha okay choi choi touch wood. But still.

8. Old habits die hard.
Indeed. Killing old habits take more than just doing it you know? It takes determination, patience, perseverance, self control, discipline--well basically, just a really positive mindset.

9. A picture is worth a thousand words.

Don't you think? :) Bahahahaha. Jealousy iz in the airzzz, gurl.

10. Last but not least, everything happens for a reason.
I really do believe that everything does happen for a reason, whether we realise it or not. Sometimes we make mistakes so we can learn from them. Sometimes we succeed so we know that there is hope. Sometimes we fall so we can learn how to get back up again. And sometimes we lose people so we know how to appreciate those around us even more.

More than blessed

I was sitting through my Contemporary Worlds lecture last week and we were talking about how these foreign workers are the people who take on the jobs which, in the eyes of Malaysians, are kind of...degrading? So I was just thinking about it the other day and a thought came to mind.

These people take on jobs such as janitors, rubbish collectors, etc and some people might be thinking, "Why would they take on such jobs?" 

And then there's us. Whether we are 'rich' or'average', most of us are still pretty much complacent with life. But these people, maybe they take on such jobs cause..well, they have nothing to lose in the first place. Earning something is better than not earning anything.

On the other hand, we already have everything we need; and for us, doing such things would just be too much to lose.

I guess all I'm trying to say is, be thankful for what you already have. 

Expectations in a relationship.

Oh, how I love my friday nights! :3 I get to meet up with my cell group, haha. It's pretty much the only thing I look forward to all week (other than Saturday!) which I guess is good, in some ways. Gives me something to look forward to, at least. Ohoho, my friday nights would be even more precious once uni starts next week. T_T

Anyway. It was bowling + McD night last Friday night and we ended up talking about lotsa stuff, including interracial relationships and expectations in a relationship. My friend went about telling the rest of us how after being in a relationship for 5 years, she doesn't expect much from her guy anymore because marriage is going to be like that anyway. Hmm, that kinda got me thinking a little bit!

I started questioning myself; whether I expected too much from the other person or not. I think it's only normal that most people place a certain level of expectation on their partners (or what not) but sometimes, expecting too much would eventually just leave us disappointed. I know I have been disappointed countless times before, lol (I'm not talking just in terms of romantic relationships *hahaha* but relationships in general--with your best friend, a close family member, etc). But then again, what am I expecting from the other person, exactly? I think we shouldn't expect too much from the other party, especially if in the first place, he/she is not even your partner (know what I mean bruh?). That way, we won't eventually find ourselves feeling bitter about the other person just because he/she didn't treat you like how you'd expected them to.

If you can't help but feel disappointed...well just tell yourself that it ain't your loss!  :)

Day 30: React to this term: Letting Go

Letting go.

To me, letting go means to put the past behind us. Letting go is never easy; this is because in most cases, letting go involves us putting something or someone important to us, behind. However, to let go doesn't necessarily mean to forget. It just means that we've decided to face the truth; face reality..and move on. Afterall, every cloud has its silver lining. J

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think each and every one of us has struggled  to let go of  something at some point in our lives; be it a person, a certain position you hold in your workplace or school, resentment, pride, etc. There have been times where I have gotten hurt but yet, I found it hard to let go nevertheless. Why hold on to something that isn't going to benefit you, right?

Easier said than done.

However, letting go is usually the best solution to many problems. Let go of the past and I'm sure something more positive would come your way. :) It's part and parcel of life. Of course, bear in mind that it wouldn't just happen overnight. Letting go requires initial mental preparation. If you're telling yourself that you've already let go but you still grieve over it, then you really haven't let go at all. Letting go isn't supposed to leave you with feelings of anger, remorse or regret.

I don't really know how to end this post, so I shall just end it with a quote and a picture.

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong; 

but sometimes it is letting go." 

Day 26: Something you read online. Leave a link and discuss, if you'd like.

How does one measure love? [click!]

"Love is not just an emotion. It’s not simply some uncontrollable feeling you fall in and out of. It doesn’t have to be here today and gone tomorrow. Nor does it ever have to leave you, in any relational context, if you don’t want it to.

And that’s because love is measured and maintained primarily by what you give, not what you receive. According to scripture, that’s the love metric: what you give to him, what you sacrifice for her, not necessarily what you feel."